Ejovi Nuwere

I’ve been thinking about my friendships lately. I’m becoming more concerned with the idea of not only losing friends, but friends of friends. Since I’ve been working on the gather at project I realize just how important that “link” is. Every friend you make opens you to a world of other people. For every one friend you make you have the potential to gain six more on average using the Nuwere Method of friend estimationâ„¢. But most people don’t think like this.

Friend thieves don’t think like this. These are people who become your friend, meet someone in your network they think is of higher value, cuter, hotter and instead of focusing on improving your friendship; they try to bypass/exclude you and deal directly with your “cooler” friend. This happens in business and a lot if you are a socially connected person. Which if you believe in the Nuwere Method of friend estimation is a bad idea because in stealing one friend you lose 5 others.

Next there are friend hordes. These are people who have really cool or influential friends but try very hard to prevent you from meeting them. Recently I have come to the conclusion that anyone who is a friend horde is most likely a friend thief. But I could be wrong. The friend horde/thieves tend to burn a lot of bridges but to the frustration of those they have irked they continue to move up in the world, one friend at a time. The negative side however is that instead of having say, 30 friends they only have 5.

The best person to be is the connector. Connectors are influential; they bring friends together and are highly regarded or prized in their social community. Generally 10% of the population are connectors if gather at can enable another 20% to become connectors that would be kinda cool.

This entry was posted on Friday, June 30th, 2006 at 1:44 pm and is filed under . You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.